### ### ### ### ### #### ### ### ### #### ### ### ##### ### ### ### ### ### ### ### ### ### ##### ### ### ########## ### ### ########## ### ### ### ### Underground eXperts United Presents... ####### ## ## ####### # # ## ## ####### #### ## ## ## ## ##### ## ## ## ## #### ## ## #### # # ####### ####### ## ## ## ## ## ##### ## ## ## ## ## ####### ####### # # ## ####### ###### [ How Do One Find New Friends? ] [ By Knyttet ] ____________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________ How do one find new friends? written by Knyttet I have been trying to find new friends by the way I know best, writing. It sounded like a good idea when I started but when I had thrown away all the drafts and the bin was starting to get full I realized that it wasn't so easy. How much of yourself do you want to leave out to a stranger? How will you feel if you don't get any replies? And what if the reply you get is from someone who sound like a total madman? I have always been a bit selective about my friends. Maybe that's why I don't have that many. But I prefer to be lonely than to be surrounded by total idiots. There are always books if life gets too boring. Well, back to the friends business. It was so much easier when you were in school. You met people more naturally. Now you meet people where you work but sometimes you need someone to talk to that does not talk about your job. Or to gossip about how it is where you work (it's a myth that this is an urge that women have). The thing I hate most about getting new friends is that it takes so much time to really get to know someone, to start to trust someone so you can tell/show them who you really are. And maybe they can't take that, maybe they don't like what you really are at all and run away. Then you have to start all over again. I think it's more complicated to find new friends than new lovers. When you start to love someone (get attracted to someone) then it's not necessary the things you have in common that's important, it's more a feeling. Attraction. But with new friends you mostly start out with something you both have in common, some kind of mutual interest. And if you are unlucky after awhile you will find out that this was the only thing you had in common. If you are falling in love with someone you don't have to have something in common, except for the attraction but with friends you got to have some things to talk about. It isn't enough sitting on the couch holding hands and looking in each others eyes. Maybe I'm too "choosy," but that's the way I am. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- uXu #421 Underground eXperts United 1998 uXu #421 ftp://ftp.etext.org/pub/Zines/uXu ---------------------------------------------------------------------------